What are "good" emotions?
What are "bad" emotions?
Well, for starters, no emotion is good or bad in and of itself. Do all emotions 'feel' good? Absolutely not. This, however, does not mean that the negative feeling emotions are "bad." In fact, no emotion is bad.
When someone feels an emotion they do not enjoy, they can decide to go different ways with how they react. One could crumble under the pressure or freeze in indecision, allowing for other's to take advantage or control to be lost. The battle of happiness vs. peace offers insight to your preconceived notions of how the world works, and what you might believe is "deserved." In my opinion, no one deserves anything, rather we are faced with challenges and results, which help to guide are decisions in the future. A lot of us, including myself at times, are quick to attach the label of "good," or "bad" to a feeling or situation, only to see in the future the real impact of their results. in the moment, we tend to view a happy feeling situation or result as an automatic "good" thing, and reciprocally a negative feeling situation or result a "bad" thing. But what about the times where a negative situation/result gets transformed into a positive in the long-run? Have any of you had a failed relationship that tore you apart, but then made you stronger and more aware for future relationships (romantic and all others)?
Happiness, to me, seems to be one of those emotions as dangerous, or even more dangerous, than depression. At times, we feel a surge of dopamine, or endorphins, or "happiness," only to enter into a mad chase where we strive to feel the same way we did the first time we experienced the event. Think about people you have seen, maybe even yourself, who have been so happy that you lose control of your emotions or even motor control (I'm talking to you fainters). Happiness often gets wrapped with euphoric feelings, which without control is like a drug that can never be quenched.
Have any of you been striving to feel as happy as you were for your 18th or 21st birthday (or any birthday you felt euphoric) as you approach your 30's, 40's, 50's...etc?
A lot of mental health blogs, therapists, counselors, "mental health advocates", and TikTok philosophers will try to swoon you with ideas that their lives are "perfect" or "happy," but the average Joe like myself can see right through this. I know you can too. Honestly, the way these types of people portray their lives at this point makes me cringe and swipe faster than I used to on dating apps (I'll make a blog about this topic too).
I encourage my viewers/readers to try out prioritizing "peace" over happiness. Peace with the good, and peace with the bad. Staying calm through the thickest of storms, and humble through the highest of highs. Allowing one's self to get 'lost in the sauce' of emotion can lead to a loss of control over the situation, and more impulsive/less logical decisions or actions to be made. Peace, to me, is a feeling that can hover above or infiltrate other emotions, allowing you to stay calm when you need to.
As a man, it is important to maintain the stability that come with peace, not only for those around you, but for your thoughts that creep in when you are at your most still. I feel as though there is nothing more powerful on this earth than a man who is calm and collected throughout all, as he can ofter safety, protection, and a call of camaraderie to the people around him. Even most religions offer an individual who seems to be able to maintain peace within himself which creates waves for generations further.
So here are my questions for you...what is/are the most difficult emotion(s) for you to maintain peace while experiencing? What is the factor that leads you to lose control?
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